Empaths and Narcissists

I can just about guarantee that 95% of you reading this are Empaths. You know how to feel sympathy for others, you truly understand what love feels like, you care for others and at times you can be easily manipulated out of a want to please someone else. A narcissist wouldn't bother reading a blog because they are too busy forging ahead in their life looking for their next area to fuel their needs.

A narcissist is someone who has lost their way from a very long time ago. They have been hurt so many times or hurt so deeply that they hold in so much anger that has never been released that they find themselves travelling through life fueling a selfish desire they have. They use people to get themselves ahead and they don't really care if you feel hurt. They will always make it seem like it's your fault, it is never their fault. They know how to say "i love you" because they have been taught that is what you say, but they don't feel it. They will be attracted to people who can make them look good. Deep down they know they are not worthy so they have people in their circle who are worthy and it makes them look good with their choices.

In the beginning of meeting a narcissist they will praise you, give you gifts, they create this feeling that you are the best thing that came into their lives. They prey on vulnerable, kind, caring people because they need your praise to fuel their ego. You will feel as though you are helping them in some way and will tend to give more of yourself and forget about your boundaries. Even when you come to the realisation that they are only using you for their own needs, you will still find yourself wanting to give to them. It's in your nature to give and to be kind and you can't stop doing that. Even if you know you are feeling hurt and are getting off track yourself, you will still be connected to the narcissist because you may feel that in some way you can save them. You can be the one to show them the light, you can be the one to teach them how to love. It can happen in a few cases, but majority of times you are just wasting your time trying to change a Narcissist. If you stop continually giving to them and cut off their fuel to their ego, they will get rid of you and replace you with the next person who praises them. They try to mould you into what they need in their life. When you stand your ground and don't allow yourself to turn into what they want, they start to struggle to have a hold over you and that is when they will either walk away or replace you.

I have come across many Narcissists in my life, from employers to relationships. In the past I observed this one boss who treated each new staff member like they were the best employee, giving this one staff member privileges over others and forging a personal friendship with the staff member. They are creating a form of trust. Then over time moulding this staff member into what they wanted. If the staff member complied and did what they wanted, they stayed, if the staff member didn't comply and held onto their sense of self, they were dismissed. You can imagine there was a very high turnover of staff. In a relationship, the pattern began the same way, lots of praise, making the partner feel praised and put on a pedestal and the trust was formed and then the manipulation began. I have observed so many relationships where one partner bows to the other and allows themselves to be manipulated purely because they want to keep loving this person and saving them. Again when you cut off the supply of giving and stand your ground, you will be let go in an instant and replaced. They don't want to know what you can teach them, they don't want what you can give them, they want a feeling of having power over you. They are not interested in bettering themselves on a spiritual level because that would mean having to go deep within themselves to bring up all the hatred, anger and hurt that they are carrying and they are truly too uncomfortable with themselves to do that. Empaths will always feel a need to save a narcissist. We come into one another's lives to try and help. And I do feel it is ok to try and help because maybe you will be the one who breaks through their exterior and egotistical world and hits a nerve to force a change, but remember to never lose yourself. Stay true to your authenticity, hold onto your empathy and love and give it back to yourself rather than giving it to the narcissist. Narcissists really dislike psychics and intuitive people because they know you can see their true colours that they can manage to hide in front of others. The peace you can have in your life when you remove yourself from Narcissists, selfish people, egotistical people is just so damn good. Removing yourself from these poor toxic people will give you such a sense of self, a love for yourself, where you can give your kindness to those who truly appreciate it.